A wisp of clarity visited me while I was thinking about Chris and Kathy. Allow me to capture it before it flutters away:
One's capacity to harm is not bound by one's capacity to understand.
<blockquote><p><em>One's capacity to harm is magnified by </em><em>one's </em><em>capacity to misunderstand.</em></p></blockquote>
Re Tim O'Reilly's Code of Conduct proposal, I think it is both unnecessary and overly restricting.
Social bounds are enforced by scars and fears, not by words and hopes.